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Types of bullies

Physical Bullies

Physical bullies are action-oriented. This type of bullying includes hitting or kicking a victim or taking or damaging a victim's property.

Verbal Bullies

Verbal bullies use words to hurt or humiliate another person. Verbal bullying includes name-calling, insulting, making racist comments and constant teasing.

Relational Bullies

Relational or relationship bullies try to convince their peers to exclude or reject a certain person or people and cut those victims off from their social connections. The most devastating effect with this type of bullying is the rejection by the peer group at a time when children most need their social connections.

Reactive Victims

Reactive victims are often the most difficult to identify because, at first glance, they seem to be targets for other bullies. However, reactive victims often taunt bullies and physically bully other people themselves. A reactive victim may provoke a bully into action, then fight back and claim self defense.

  1. Bullies come in all ages, sizes, races, religions, and in both genders.
  2. People who behave in openly hostile behavior, who build themselves up by tearing others down, or who threaten others to make themselves feel powerful are bullies.
  3. Bullies use many tactics to harass and threaten people including, but not limited to, words and physical violence.
  4. The old adage, "Sticks and stones can break your bones but words will never hurt you!" is simply not true.  Words can be just as harmful as physical violence and can cause lasting psychological damage to victims.
  5. Boys most often resort to physical attacks while girls are more likely to bully with words.  For this reason bullying by girls is often ignored or not taken as seriously as bullying by boys. The reality is that both types of bullying are very serious.
  6. Never try to handle a bully alone. Always go to a person with authority over the bully such as; a teacher, a principal, a school staff member or a parent.
  7. No matter what a bully threatens to do, you must tell somebody in a position of authority and your parents. Never suffer in silence. No matter how popular a bully seems you do not have to handle him/her alone. Responsible adults will help you if you tell them what is happening. Studies have shown that bullying stops when adults step in and telling an adult rarely makes the situation worse.
  8. Ignoring bullies does not make them stop. Bullies thrive on the reactions of their victims and ignoring them can make them step up their efforts. Only adult intervention and awareness can end the harassment. If you tell an adult and then start ignoring the bullying behavior the bully will tend to back off. Only start ignoring the behavior after you have made as many adults as possible aware of the problem.
  9. Bullies often model what they see at home. Sometimes a bully is really crying out for help. Bullies often act out because they feel they have no control over their own lives; they bully in an attempt to take control. Telling an adult about a bully may end up helping BOTH of you.
  10. As children grow in to teens bullying behaviors often escalate. Death threats, taunts urging suicide, group attacks, and violence with weapons can occur. This sort if behavior is criminal and should always be reported to the police as well as to school officials and parent.

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