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What Kids Can Do To Stop Bullying

Ways Bullies Can Stop Bullying 

  • Just don't do it!  Don't bully your peers!

  • Accept responsibility for your behavior if you bully others.

  • Don't confuse fear with respect.  A person who is feared only has power and influence as long as they are able to scare others.  A person who is respected has power and influence without needing to be feared.  Bullies are feared, not respected!

  • Don't think you are playing, being funny, acting cool or being tough when you are hurting others.

  • Don't think bullying is no big deal.  Bullying hurts others and in some cases ruins lives.

  • Don't allow yourself to be provoked into bullying.  Bullying is NEVER justified!

  • Learn to manage your anger and frustration.  Seek help if you need it.

  • Bullying won't make you any real friends.  Maybe you're trying to protect yourself from it happening to you, or maybe you get bullied at home.  Either way you'll notice bullies don't have real friends, only people too scared to disagree.
  • Do you know why you bully people? Try to understand why you're acting the way you are. Get to the cause of the problem rather than taking it out on other people.
  • Try to feel good about changing the way you act around people - you can choose the sort of person you want to be.

Ways Targets Can Stop Bullying 

  • Walk tall. Body language sends out important signals. Standing up straight will make you look strong, determined and positive, even if you're scared out of your wits inside.

  • Walk away. There's no point listening to someone being abusive if you don't have to.
  • Stay in a group or around other people whenever you can. Having other people around can act as a kind of insurance.
  • Tell your parents you are being bullied.
  • Tell your teacher or another school staff member you are being bullied.

  • Never provoke a bully into targeting you.

  • Tell the bully to stop.

  • If possible, ignore them. They're trying to upset you and will hopefully get bored if they don't get a reaction.
  • Ask a friend to get a teacher or another staff member.

  • Avoid unsafe situations like going into unsupervised areas (hallways, bathrooms, classrooms) especially when you know the bully is already in that area.

  • Ask for mediation so you can confront the bully and tell him/her how their behavior makes you feel and what you specifically want them to stop doing.

  • Most importantly, NEVER keep bullying a secret.

Ways Bystanders Can Stop Bullying 

  • Never encourage a bully by laughing at his/her behavior

  • Never stand lookout for a bully while they are harming someone.

  • Don't join in because you feel you have to. By joining in you're just being weak and spineless. If you don't do anything about the bully, there's no guarantee it won't be you next.
  • Understand that when you see someone being bullied it affects you even though it may seem like it doesn't

  • Realize you have a responsibility to inform the school staff if someone is being bullied.  Today, they are the target but tomorrow it might be you!

  • Don't set someone up to be bullied.

  • Learn safe and appropriate ways to confront your peers.

  • If it is safe to do so, tell a bully to stop and suggest they speak with a school staff member if they are angry or frustrated.

  • Tell your parents about any bullying problems at your school.

  • Make a commitment to do what you can to keep your school safe.

  • Be a Good Samaritan!

  • NEVER keep bullying a secret!

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